Is He Cheating? Signs to Watch For

The other day, a friend of mine complained that her live-in boyfriend "disappeared" this weekend, turning his cell phone off, and stealing her car to do so. She finally heard from him on Monday night.

"Where the hell were you?! I needed my car for work, and had to take my kids to school on the bus this morning!" She screamed at him the moment his key turned inside the door.

He mumbled something and went off to bed, tossing the keys on the kitchen counter.

While relaying this, along with two previous years of his trangressions to us, another friend piped up. "What are you going to do?"

"Nothing," she responded. "If he ever does get up to no good, God will catch him. God will catch him."

Many of us have experienced the betrayal, humiliation, and heartbreak of being cheated on. Many of us have also experienced the pain of "not knowing," the constant feelings of doubt, insecurity, embarassment, and wondering if you are going crazy.

Here are a few signs that he may be cheating or has the capacity to cheat. Keep in mind that it doesn't necessarily mean that he is cheating, it means that if you have the "Uh-Oh" feeling coupled with signs, BE AWARE. Good luck and God bless!

1. We'll start with the most obvious. His cell phone. Does he leave it off or on silent when you're with him? Does he walk to the other room to answer the phone? Does he get calls late in the evening? How often does he answer the phone when you call, especially at night? How quickly does he respond to your texts? If the answers to these questions are not what you would like them to be, chances are good that he's at least talking to another female.

2. His "work." How much time does he spend with you? Is he working more than usual, more than enough for you to notice he hasn't been spending as much time with you? Do he have to "work late," more than he used to? In the words or famed comedian Chris Rock,"Ladies, the only way to keep your man from cheating is to be there. All the time." Temptation is always going to be out there. It's up to you to stand in the way of it.

3. His car. Yes ladies, the clues can sometimes be found in his car. Once, I found out the guy was cheating on his girl with me. The telltale clue? A black hair clip attached to the sun visor on the passenger side. The fool had forgotten to take it out before picking me up! Needless to say, I never dated him again! Girly things, such as hair clips, hairbrushes, lotion, etc. are all indications of another girl. Also check out the sun visor mirror to see if it's been adjusted the last time you were in his car. Same with the passenger seat and seat belt. You'll know if the last person to sit there was smaller or bigger than you, if he drives an older model car. Don't forget the center console, glove compartment, and the trunk.

4. One more thing: his friends. Do you KNOW all his friends? Are you sure? Have you met all of them, and do they know you as "the girlfriend?" Do you go out with him and his friends, when they invite him out? Are you even invited out with him and his friends? To end with another quote from Chris Rock: "Ladies, if you've been dating a man for more than 3 months, and you STILL haven't met any of his friends, you're not his girlfriend!"